Marriage Living: [How to]Have A Successful Happy Marriage -Marriage Rules That Should Be Broken
However elusive the secrets to a good marriage may be, there have definitely been enough people claiming to have found the rulebook to make one skeptical. And with good reason – a lot of the ideas that we now think of as necessary for a good marriage are actually myths. Plus, some of the information I am sharing with you is not new. You know this. Yet, you need to be reminded of the information and now put some effort into doing it. Let’s look at some of them:
Fighting is bad
Healthy fighting – without incrimination and name calling – is actually a better alternative than staying quiet – the reasoning being that the latter kind of person are less invested in the health of the relationship and airing out difficulties. You must express yourself in a positive manner to your partner. Just talk. Give it a try.
Children come first
Children grow up better in a home where the parents have a loving relationship. There is a saying that the best thing a man can do for his children is to love their mother, and that goes for parents of any gender – the best thing you can do for your children is to work on the relationship between the two of you. While that may mean occasionally getting a sitter and planning couple time as a chore, it is worth it in the long run. Trust me. You need a date night for you and your partner.
The Spark is necessary
Man cannot live on bread alone – and neither can humans live on love alone. So don’t overvalue the heady pleasures of the beginning of any relationship, and think it a criteria it will have to follow all your life. The spark will die out, but it will leave behind – hopefully – trust, commitment and care. These are enough to build a relationship on that is worth continuing – and don’t think the spark can’t or won’t come back.
These and many other myths make up a plethora of wrong advice we receive every day – ignore it and do what feels right to you. That will make all the difference.
Personally, I have lived through all of these myths in my marriage. I can truly say if you put work into your marriage, God will make sure you reap the benefits. Having a happy and successful marriage is something every couple should desire no matter how long you have been with that individual. Marriage is a 24/7 type of job that you must work on each day to see the benefits. This secret can truly help you have a happy marriage in the long run.
Have you tried some of these tips in this post? What happen? Is your husband a jerk? Is your wife a witch? Do you need help? Do tell…
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Posted on January 13, 2014, in Marriage and tagged be happy in a marriage, breaking the rules, How to, love being married, love your husband, love your wife, marriage, need coaching on marriage, need help in a marriage. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.